My friend Julia has a gift. She is a special person. This blog post is not only about her gift, but it is also about boundaries, permissions and integrity. The essence of this post can be applied in many different circumstances and is a reminder that, no matter what we do, there are always boundaries and at the heart of everything we do, we must always respect other people, their values and their beliefs.
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So I don’t have the most normal job in the world. It comes with no rules, a lot of intuition, a sprinkling of science & conjecture and a wide variety of clients.
I’m clairvoyant and clairaudient. I’m psychic. Tarot reader. Whatever term feels comfortable to you.
One of the biggest misconceptions is that I’m always “on”. I love going to parties, feeling normal around my close friends and siblings. You want to talk about boys, the latest celebrity baby name (“Magic Eight”, we know its coming one day right!) or trivial matters? I’m you’re girl. It makes me feel normal, grounded and not like a freak.
I don’t ‘read’ everybody automatically. I don’t read (and never will) for my parents or for my siblings BUT if I do pick up on something or have a message for them - they have all give me the ‘all clear’ to tell them anything I pick up on. I don’t like reading for my siblings but will if asked. The reason for this is a combination of clarity vs relationship. I don’t ever want the information compromised by what I ‘hope’ for them, instead of what’s really coming. Same goes for anyone I’ve had sex with . But that’s a whole other blog post.
When a client comes to me for a reading, it is implied that they have given me permission to enter their energy/ space/ aura, whatever you want to call it. But sometimes I ‘read’ or see information from strangers and quite often I don’t let them know. Permission is important. Sometimes I can dive in without asking and there is no spiritual integrity in that. In my 20’s I ‘might’ have been able to have been forgiven, but I know enough to know that I should ask. For the sake of the person whose energy I’ve entered and as a sign of respect.
Soooooo... out of the blue yesterday a name enters my mind, the name of a girl I knew when I lived in London 15-16 years ago. We were very close. We were soul sisters. Sunday nights, we literally did each others hair. I followed my intuition, did a Facebook search (of course) and saw only one name with the cartoon picture of a girl laying on a nutella jar ... I knew it was my friend instantly. I shall re-name her Bianca. Bianca is beautiful, French and when we were flatmates she had the same breakfast every morning - a croissant with nutella.
I sent a friend request on FB to which she accepted instantly, coupled with very excited messages for my phone number and that feeling of sisterhood and friendship was back immediately. Bianca called me within 2.48 minutes of getting my FB request and phone number. It was one of those beautiful phone calls of reconnection, no time and space had passed.
Within minutes of our animated phone call I recounted to Bianca (without her telling me) that she was still single, I told her not to be worried that she’d be married within the next two years and ... an interruption ... Bianca’s calm fantastic french accent “yees yees Jewlia you are right I forgot this about you, oh my goodness but Jewlia you cannot say eennny more, you have forgotten I’m Muslim”. Actually when I think of Bianca I can list 10 things about her and her faith is probably not one of them. Bianca told me that she was grateful for the information but that I was breaking a law of the Muslim faith and could not go on ‘with what I was doing’.
I felt terrible, waited for a bolt of lightening (which thankfully never came) and carried on our fantastic conversation.
As bad as I felt ... that conversation was a fantastic reminder of Spiritual Integrity. That essential piece to what I do, to ask permission ... but most of all to ask questions, be a friend and to keep healthy boundaries between my ‘work and gift’ and the real world.
So what are you thoughts? Do you want to know what someone intuition is picking up? Do you have a spiritual life and a religious life that are different? Do you like to know things in advance or wait for life and fate to be what it will be?
Love & light